This One's for the Guys

Because I feel so bad about not having time to blog much this week, and because I meant to blog about this a few days ago, but forgot to I am going to write two blogs today.

This one is more of an apology to the males of Earth (sorry extraterrestrials). I feel the need to write this "letter", so to speak, because I recall (I'm sure you do too) writing a particularly bitter blog about how I have no date for Homecoming, and have never had a boy friend(my younger sister has had like five, but until recently I didn't realize how hypocritical I was being.

Besides the fact that I like the tradition of guys asking girls out- it's more romantic, it reminds me of Jane Austen (if you don't know who that is, go away), and, I don't know, I've just always felt that that was just the way things were supposed to work- there's another reason that I'd rather be asked then to be the one doing the asking. That reason is fear of rejection.

I think everyone, even guys, can relate to that fear. Now, I want all the girls reading this to think of this from the guys' perspective:
They're expected to be the askers, but they also have this fear of being rejected by us. Then we get frustrated because none of them will ask us to the big dance, or whatever.

What I'm trying to get at is that we should try and remember (I say try because I realize it's sometimes difficult to be patient) that feeling of fear whenever we're stressing about guys. Maybe girls could even get up the nerve to ask a guy out. Sure they could say no, but isn't that the same for guys? They ask girls out all the time, yet there is always that possibility of rejection.

So, males of Earth, I'm sorry that I often complain about never being asked to anything by you. With this new insight I realize it isn't always because I'm not pretty enough, or funny enough, or *insert adjective here* enough, it's because you're just as afraid of rejection as I am. And I will willingly admit that.

I am afraid to ask a guy to Homecoming, or anything for that matter, because I am terrified (even more so than I am before an audition) that they aren't going to say yes. That they might, for any number of reasons, say no. It's something I probably won't even be able to handle. I really have to give you men props because, even if it's not for awhile, you eventually work past that fear of rejection. Well, at least enough to actually ask a girl out.

Here's hoping that you boys manage to successfully make it past that terrified stage, and that you understand that us girls are just as worried about being rejected as you are. Also, if one girl rejects you, then she isn't the girl you're meant to be with anyway, so do your best to get over her and move on to bigger and better prospects.